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LIVING WITH NON-TREK FAMILY AND FRIENDS

luvy4532

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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 5:57 am

Growing up I had no family or friends who were Star Trek fans.  I had no-one to discuss story lines or characters with.  My husband whom I love dearly made light fun of my fandom like he was indulging me. Working and raising 3 kids left me no time to explore my fandom.  What about you?  How have you coped???


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Vger23

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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 7:23 am

I never really had that problem. My dad was the one who intoduced me to Trek. I never had a friend that didn't, at least casually, like the show. I've always had one or two who consider themselves "big fans." And, when I first met my wife, I introduced her to Trek and she enjoys it very much.


 


I guess I'm lucky.

Six of Nine

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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 8:09 am

It stinks, considering im the only one in my family that likes it.


As a wise man once wrote, : "Nature decays, but latinum lasts forever".

Six of Nine

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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 8:10 am

My Dad did though introduce me.


So I guess I wouldnt put him as a Trekkie or Trekker just a casual watcher.


As a wise man once wrote, : "Nature decays, but latinum lasts forever".

juliansgirl7

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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 9:28 am

Quote: Six of Nine @ Apr. 24 2011, 8:09 am

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>It stinks, considering im the only one in my family that likes it.

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Same here-I have no one to watch the episodes with me or, if I had gotten a ST board game, to play that game with me.


 


I feel like I was switched at birth!


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OneDamnMinuteAdmiral

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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 10:00 am

Quote: Vger23 @ Apr. 24 2011, 7:23 am

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>I never really had that problem. My dad was the one who intoduced me to Trek. I never had a friend that didn't, at least casually, like the show. I've always had one or two who consider themselves "big fans." And, when I first met my wife, I introduced her to Trek and she enjoys it very much.

>I guess I'm lucky.

>


My dad got me into Star Trek as well and anyone I do know that doesn't really watch has never given me grief over it. Most of my closest friends aren't really fans but they usually like one or 2 of the movies.


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luvy4532

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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 10:39 am

This is why I am so happy coming to Star Trek .com    I did find something in the ST store for my husband to save for christmas.   As I said once before, he does love Wrath of Khan.  He loves to repeat  "Khan!!!! Khan!!! Khan!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   like kirk does.   I found a "Khan!!!!!!!!!!!"  t-shirt that I am going to buy  and see if he will wear it.


 


 


 


 


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n5tiflk

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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 2:46 pm

I guess that i was lucky in a way I had a friend about a block away that was a fan but that was back in the late 70s it was nothing but TOS.  Then in my mid 20s another friend of mine was a fan we rented a house together for 3 years till I got married.  And that was the start of TNG era I remember we had a party for the premier.  Now its just me, my son will watch them with me but he will never ask to watch them him self.  He says it just ok dad LOL. 

OtakuJo

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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 4:22 pm

Oh me too! *Except my aunty is a fan although I don't know how much*


Some of these things are so close to my experience that I could have written them myself and they would be no less true.


Although I came into fandom rather late -- I think that is in part moving from home at age 19 and being able to explore what I would like without reference to my parents and so on. I have had other passionate obsessions through life, so I'm used to both the eye-rolling and the joys of a geek-out about many things.


Most difficult is not having anyone around with whom I can really geek-out except online. But then I have been passionately obsessed with other things in the past -- so I'm quite used to seeing my mum rolling her eyes.


Well... I have a Wildcard of my own now because if she makes fun of my fandom I can just remind her of how many hours she spends playing Farmtown!!


She and Dad have at least been willing to give Star Trek a chance, and I think kind of enjoyed some of it. The line "That's a stupid question" quite amused my dad, and Mum at least has some notion of who Dax is... A bit of a step up for a decided non-fan.


But she hated Our Man Bashir, which is sad.


My friends' eyes kind of glaze over, but I have managed to find occasional passing acquaintances (like the bus driver the other day) who sees me with a Star Trek book in my arms and ends up talking Trek with me all the way into town! Golden experience!!


My sister won't even give it a chance. She's very much into keeping with what's "in", and so she just says "Star Trek sucks" even though I have no evidence that she's ever seen an episode or even part of an episode.


And most of my fandom activities are solitary. Unfortunately there are no fanclubs here who meet regularly in person (I'm in SFI which has been heaps of fun, but our chapter is correspondence based so I have never met anyone involved.)


But then most of the things I like to do are pretty solitary anyway -- so I read and watch and write and make fanart all by my lonesome, happy enough in me own company. I outright lied to my mum when I first discovered a bunch of stories on fanfiction.net-- She's like "You're not writing stuff too are you?" And I'm like "No. Why?"


Only so much eye-rolling a girl can stand. But then I entered a contest last year and wound up getting all excited and having to tell someone -- and so she of course was saying "Hey when do I get to read that story?" and I only managed to stall for all of maybe two months or so.


So generally if no-one else is interested, I find solitary activities to do. And I adopt the attitude of "Well I'm going to enjoy this fandom, irrespective of anybody else's opinions." Because one way or another I'm always going to be on the edge of "society", but society is not really worth giving up what makes me happy.


Guess there was a lot to say huh. Oh well.


The End.


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Royalsfanen

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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 4:43 pm

My dad was the one who introduced me to Star Trek as well, so I can't say my problem has been exactly the same. However, when it comes to finding fans that are on, and I don't exactly know how to put this, the same level I suppose is where my issue has been. Don't get me wrong, I am by no means a know-it-all when it comes to Star Trek, there are many things about the franchise that I'm sure I'm not aware of.


The thing is, my dad was more of a casual fan during the time of TOS, TNG and DS9. His knowledge in Star Trek is good for just that, casual conversation. Sometimes you want a little bit more though, sometimes you want to debate around about an episode or throw your two cents in about a certain character or species interaction that you saw somewhere. That's where the kind of catch-22 comes in, because there are not many people out there that carry that sort of conversation with you, which makes these boards fantastic.


Anyways, I'll quit rambling. As I said before, I am by no means an expert on Star Trek and have never considered myself one. I do feel that I know more than your average "Joe Fan" at the coffee shop down the street. I suppose that's what is great about Trek though, it has evolved to the point where a fan can spend years and years looking into the franchise and the things that go on outside of the show and still never know everything! I am perfectly content with that, because it keeps us fans on our toes lol.

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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 6:27 pm

Quote: Vger23 @ Apr. 24 2011, 7:23 am

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>I never really had that problem. My dad was the one who intoduced me to Trek. I never had a friend that didn't, at least casually, like the show. I've always had one or two who consider themselves "big fans." And, when I first met my wife, I introduced her to Trek and she enjoys it very much.

>I guess I'm lucky.

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Pretty much the same with me.  I don't know how I'd quantify my wife's feelings towards the franchise.  She liked the original show, but was definitely never a fan.  She liked it because it was fun and was so retro in its design. 


She's enjoyed the TOS films I've shown her.  She thought GEN and NEM were pretty bad though. 


She liked some of TNG, although she doesn't like the "perfect people" characters of the show much at all.  She hates VOY and never wants to watch that. 

However, I introduced her to DS9 and she really likes it.  The only stuff she doesn't like on that show is Major Kira and Dax's whole Trill backstory.  She likes Dax a lot but thinks the whole Trill worm thing is just too weird. 


 


KHAAAAAAANNNNNN!!!!!

CaptainMauin

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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 8:11 pm

I guess I'm fortunate since both of my parents like Trek, though not to the same degree as me.


The problem only comes when you place me with friends. None of my friends like Star Trek. Heck, they even once had to ask me what it was! I come on here to make up for the lack of Trek friends. At least here I can chat with people who also like the franchise. I can't do that at school. The only things that my friends will do that involves Trek (in a very annoying way) is that they like to pester me with it. Most of my classmates will make some rather nasty jokes, usually by blending Trek and Wars.


So... Here I come. If I can't talk to friends about it, I can come and talk about it here.


Goodbye. I am gone.

janewayjunkie74656

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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 9:05 pm

Quote: CaptainMauin @ Apr. 24 2011, 8:11 pm

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>I guess I'm fortunate since both of my parents like Trek, though not to the same degree as me.

>The problem only comes when you place me with friends. None of my friends like Star Trek. Heck, they even once had to ask me what it was! I come on here to make up for the lack of Trek friends. At least here I can chat with people who also like the franchise. I can't do that at school. The only things that my friends will do that involves Trek (in a very annoying way) is that they like to pester me with it. Most of my classmates will make some rather nasty jokes, usually by blending Trek and Wars.

>So... Here I come. If I can't talk to friends about it, I can come and talk about it here.

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Wow, that is pretty much EXACTLY what I was just going to put.


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Report this Apr. 24 2011, 9:12 pm

I would end up watching Trek on the other TV in the den, away from everyone else. In the TNG years I would videotape all my TNG episodes for later viewing.


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Report this Apr. 25 2011, 12:02 am

When I was staying with my parents Trek was on quite late at night, so I would be able to stay up and watch it then. Although after a while there was a moment when my dad would join me. We watched First Contact together on VHS although he was rather confused that it was not the Voyager cast.


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