Star Trek

Hello all,
My name is Shay and I am 24.5 years old male.
I tought it might be nice to bring this subjet up and maybe get a few insights and suggestions and ideas etc...

In my life I am a student majoring Statistics, but next year will probably move to another school and will study Mechnial or electrical engineering towards a Bsc degree.
Anyhow, most of my life I liked science, math  , Physics and of course Sci-Fi and Sci -Fi tv shows such as Star Trek which gave me alot of inperation to my life and ideas of what I want to do when I wll "grow up" and in my future.
So most of my life I was considered as a "geek" I was allways good at math , computers, Physics, Science etc... , and because  I was considered to be a 'nerd" geek or what ever, I didnt allways find the right friends for me, and didnt find girls for my self ( I did find girl friends but for short terms ).
In addition however I am also considering my self as a geek and proud of it   , I really dont look like the "geek" image you think of , I am 6`3 , blond hair, blue eyes, no glasses, going to GYM alot, swimming, marthel arts and more, I used to surf, and today  I scuba dive , I like to travel in my country and in the world.

Anyhow, when ever I speak to a girl , rather I met her on the internet and then start speak over the phone, or if I meet her at the University , and we speak about things we like to do , when I mention I like Sci-Fi and see the star trek as a good idology for life  I sense a kind of "turn off" in the girls eyes after saying "I like star trek", and when I am saying " yes I am a geek" but in the end we geeks will live well and have nice houses etc... ,

So, allthough a few friends of mine ( girls  but not girls friends) told me I do look good but have to stop speak or tell about liking Sci Fi etc....

Can you please explain and give me more insights about it? why does Sci Fi scares girls off and is a major turn off?
After all most guys like some kind of Tv entertament such as sports, -soccer, basketball, football etc... So  I dont like and watch those things and instead I was Star trek, star gate and this kind of things...

I will be glad to hear some insights from girls as well.

Also that I hope to find a girl which will like me for who I am with out needing to "hide" things , and for the right girl I will go or fly accross the globe to get her.

I will thank you for any comments , insights,suggetions etc...

Feel free to email me at :

Ride_joy@netvision.net.il

Thanks

Shay

P.S
Here is a nice pictures of me, In las vegas...
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And some more picturs:
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I take it you go diving alot.

I suppose the best way to meet someone who likes sci-fi like you would be a convention or something. But i wouldn't stop talking about sci-fi its who you are and a girl should like you the way you are.

I tend to talk about star trek and other sci-fi alot but ppl accept me for who i am. I dont have a boyfriend and like you i find it difficult to find someone. I'm a student studying at Bradford Uni i have pleanty of freinds but no boyfriend. Maybe the fact i scare them away.

I suppose it depends on the type of girl you like depends on were you would pick them up.

It's tough, and the first thing I might offer is don't tell them everything on the first meeting.  I do "Trek" and belong to several superhero costume groups.  Imagine how tough it would be if I said, "I love 'Star Trek' and I dress like Batman..."  Usually it doesn't matter what I say after that.  I get the million mile stare.  I do have a girlfriend now, and she supports what I do, even if she doesn't do it, or won't do it.  Remember, you're more than just a "Trek" fan.  Like I'm more than just a Bat-Geek.

Okay, well I'm a girl and a total Star Trek nerd so I thought I'd chime in.  Most of the people I hang out with (except my family) aren't into Star Trek.  So I don't talk about it a whole lot.  When I get close to people, they find out but it's one of those things where if someone's not interested, you can only do so much.

I personally met a guy and fell in love with him before finding out he liked Star Trek.  Not as much as me, but I'm trying to change that.  I think you need to find someone you're compatible with in general, and then start introducing them to some of the things you're into.  If it's a healthy relationship, they'll try to take interest.  Just don't constantly besiege them with Star Trek all the time.

I know what you mean about "hiding things" too.  None of my friends know that I do a Star Trek sim online, but my boyfriend does.  You've just got to meet someone you can be yourself around, who is tolerant and willing to put up with quirks.

And yes, there are lots of girls out there who love Star Trek.  My sister and I are both obesessed, and people are always surprised by it.  Just make sure the girl knows what you are an interesting (non freaky) person before you throw the Trek in.  And if she runs away after that, then why would you want her anyway?

what language is that site in?

dude it's not that hard. how i do it is just don't be so open about star trek, but don't lie and say you hate it. just meet a girl and dont talk about star trek and act natural, if she mentions it in a negative way, ignore it. but if she doesnt care or has a possitive feeling towards it then go on easy. or if she wants to get interested in it have her watch TOS or VOY those should get her hooked.this only works if you arnt a twig, cause if you are you arnt going to atract alot of women.
believe me i know i do this stuff all the time it works for me.

As a female geek I fully sympathize but atleast your a guy, girls arent intimidated by a guy who is smarter than them!

As for geek guys, I feel sorry for them. I know most of you are really nice guys and I have great conversations about life the universe and everything but why, oh why, do you have to make comments about sex on a first date!!!

A tip to all you males, it is the quickest way to make sure you dont get a second date. (The only quicker way Ive heard of was a guy SMS'd an image of an appendage to his date 1 hour before the date...the date never happened! Even if I liked a guy, this indicates to me that all he is thinking about is getting me into his bedroom, not being friends or having a lasting relationship. We are geeks, this means we are intelligent, we are not likely to fall for a line or jump into bed because you suggest it.

Quote (djabbic @ June 26 2005, 6:56 am)

As a female geek I fully sympathize but atleast your a guy, girls arent intimidated by a guy who is smarter than them! As for geek guys, I feel sorry for them. I know most of you are really nice guys and I have great conversations about life the universe and everything but why, oh why, do you have to make comments about sex on a first date!!! A tip to all you males, it is the quickest way to make sure you dont get a second date. (The only quicker way Ive heard of was a guy SMS'd an image of an appendage to his date 1 hour before the date...the date never happened! Even if I liked a guy, this indicates to me that all he is thinking about is getting me into his bedroom, not being friends or having a lasting relationship. We are geeks, this means we are intelligent, we are not likely to fall for a line or jump into bed because you suggest it.

here here totally agree with you.

I agree with Jadzia20, just be yourself.  I'm a trekkie and proud of it!  It's also shaped a lot of who I am so I'm not gonna hide it.  I'm in 3rd year bio so yeah, that's my life too -- science and sci-fi.  Just find someone who has the same interests or just accepts who you are even if they don't share the same hobbies.  You've got some good advice here.

Hey!
Are there any Sci-Fi clubs in your area? Not neccerily comic. Honestly, I have found that most of the comic clubs in my area (Oklahoma, USA) are made up of just males. And I personaly have guy friends that have asked this same question. Here are a few tips.
Always smell good and use good hygine. Women have a higher sense of smell than men do. Make sure you are clean, wear deoderant, and if you like use mens perfume. Also, remember to brush your teeth and use gum or mints. Bad breath is a real turn off. (I know this is basic but I have had to say this to more than one of my male friends)
I know about the "oh my gosh he's a weirdo look"(for me it's been she) have been having it for a long time. My deal is that they may be a fan too and may not be sure how to react to it. You just have to put it on the table and if they do that deer in the headlights, glazed over look then move on to some other topic, school, your major, life,scuba diving, etc. but something else. It's funny but sometimes it's almost like talking politics or religion, you kind of have to feel out the conversation and thier reactions. The only time you don't have to really worry about this is at Sci-Fi/Star Trek conventions.
One thing I will tell you is that the sexiest thing that anyone can be or do is just be confident with themselves. Don't try to change for someone. I mean in every relationship there are comprimises and give and take but it has to work from both sides.
Also, just plain old romatic stuff like...kissing a hand, bringing them a flower just becouse, or doing something just to make them feel special with no expectation works wonders. I think everyone male or female likes to think that they are special to someone!
Well...that's all from me! Hope it helps a bit!
Later,
Chocolate lover (or Karen)

It's an interesting question. I read articles all the time that say that all sci fi - specifically, all Star Trek - fans are male. Yet everyone I know who's into ST is female. And most of us (myself excepted) are pretty hot. I was shocked when I met fellow fans for the first time. A very good looking bunch, for the most part.

No one I know personally is as big a Star Trek fan as I am, so, likewise, the guys I'd dated weren't into SciFi or ST at all. They had other interests that I shared with them.

I now know, however, that there are ST clubs, conventions, events where people who are really into ST meet. Often they know each other from online, and arrange to meet at the event. Perhaps you can find a ST or SciFi club online in your country - is it Israel? And see if people can get together at an event to socialise, or else create your own event.

In think the best thing is just to threat it like any other show. Most woman think of it that way. So the scary thing is when you start talking about a show when you meet someone. Wouldn't you be freaked if she was like: hello my name is jennie...yesteray on Friends....

You would also be turned off. The first time me and my girlfrined watched TV together we watched Entertainment tonight and american Idol I HATED THOSE SHOWS . So the next time, I made her watch Voyager. and now(1 year and a half together), we have TNG DS9 and VOYAGER on DVD. she's hooked.

....and I watch american Idol every night it plays.

so you see, just act like it's a TV show.

Pretty much what everyone else has said plus, stop referring to yourself as 24.5 years old.  People stop using the half when they're nine or ten years old.

I haven't found a trekkie gf yet.....

I've met people that know what Star Trek is, but aren't Trekkies....

But the thing I'd look for is conventions

Quote (HighLanderI @ June 21 2005, 1:24 am)

Anyhow, when ever I speak to a girl , rather I met her on the internet and then start speak over the phone, or if I meet her at the University , and we speak about things we like to do , when I mention I like Sci-Fi and see the star trek as a good idology for life I sense a kind of "turn off" in the girls eyes after saying "I like star trek", and when I am saying " yes I am a geek" but in the end we geeks will live well and have nice houses etc... , So, allthough a few friends of mine ( girls but not girls friends) told me I do look good but have to stop speak or tell about liking Sci Fi etc.... Can you please explain and give me more insights about it? why does Sci Fi scares girls off and is a major turn off? After all most guys like some kind of Tv entertament such as sports, -soccer, basketball, football etc... So I dont like and watch those things and instead I was Star trek, star gate and this kind of things... I

Okay. Don't ever try to be someone you are not. If sci-fi is a big part of who you are, then don't hide it. I'm a BIG sci-fi/fanasty fan. I happened to marry a Trekkie but I'm the bigger Trekkie. Hubby was the bigger Star Wars fan but I think our 5 year old son has us both beat at that now!  
My only advice is to be patient. I never dated before hubby. And we got envolved when I was 22! I didn't think I'd ever find a boyfriend let alone a husband. We will be married for 7 years in September and also have a daughter who will be one next week (and she's a Trekkie in training!   )
I do know some females just don't want to go near a male who likes sci-fi. Obviously, I can't understand why. If a girl really likes you but not sc-fi, she will get over it. I had to put up with a LOT of MASH re-runs. It used to run about 3 times a day. But we can't always like the same shows. We are still different people. I always hated it when my older sister would suddenly get into something that her current boyfriend was into. She like Star Trek: The Next Generation for exactly how long she went out with one guy! I was so shocked when she started watching it with me. She hasn't watched an episode since she broke up with him. She really hated it.
Oh and I'm glad my hubby doesn't like sports! I'd never have control of the remote.  The only sports in our house is figure skating and horse jumping watched by me.
I'm a big Stargate fan too. I think it's rubbing off on hubby. He's been watching some of the episodes with me.